When Hair Goes Beyond Vanity

Lord knows we all have our challenges and triumphs.  If this road to 'finding the new normal' has reminded me of anything, it is that hair goes beyond vanity.  Where I come from, if someone is feeling a bit blue or needs a shift in perspective, the first thing someone tells you is to go fix your hair and put on some lipstick.  Well, lipstick isn't always an option with masks.  We'd look like we were going to a Halloween Party, with a lot of the moisturizing formulas or glosses that would go all over the place inside a mask (mainly because not all transfer resistant formulas are considered 'clean' beauty.  Some of us (myself included), got used to more natural looks.  But, one of the areas that really allowed us to get creative and express ourselves - - - has been our hair.  It poetically frames our face and crowns our head - and with the right color and coiffe, a man or a woman can feel confident and wonderful.  I've personally experienced this topic because of the hair journey that I went through.  As a woman with lots of hair, who knows how to style my hair, you would not have noticed much of a change, months ago.  Why?  Well, I'd wear the tallest platform boots or heels, hats, hair cosmetics or hair accessories, to allow me to mask areas of my hair that were concerning me.  I totally rebooted my hair and scalp skincare routine from zero and designed from my heart.  I wanted something that would be great for more than just my hair type to use.  It is why, when you see someone who has gorgeous hair and they are totally beaming with such confidence and joy - don't "assume" they are vain or all about their appearance.  Assuming is a toxic habit.  You don't know what that person has going on Psychologically or with their home life.  It is really easy to judge and them, having their hair dolled up that day, may be their only way to shine.  I look at hair very differently since I had a positive journey from where I was, 6 or 7 months ago.  My hair was fugly and it did take its toll on how I felt about my self esteem or my confidence.  So if this blog post can accomplish at least one thing - let it accomplish a shift in your perspective the next time you see a gorgeous head of hair.  Don't be shy and give a person a compliment - go ahead, make their day;